[.ca] Choosing Happiness: Keys to a Joyful Life (ISBN 0060008040)

another lovely book by alexandra:
as always, with alexandra's books, I was not disappointed. I will add this one to my shelf to read and reread. My daughters (22-24yr) also enjoy borrowing my alexandra books for inspiration on decorating and life in general. I savor her books!

Love and Live Happy....REALLY read this book:
In this book, as in all her works, Alexandra Stoddard is not telling you to change YOUR bedside lampshades just because she mentions it in her book. She's not telling YOU to wear acid green, that she loves and she's not telling YOU to check the Caffeine label on the coffe. She's telling you what SHE does and how SHE chooses happiness. No one is going to be able to "Choose Happiness" by following HER suggestions verbatim. What she IS telling you is to look at her examples and find these things in YOUR life. Hers may be silly and trite to you, as some of the negative reviews have mentioned, but the basic idea is sound indeed. You just have to find your own. The most I got from this book is BEING MINDFUL. Now, we all know this, it's nothing new, but all of this is cumulative anyway. It won't do you a whit's good to practice these tips for a day or a week. It has to be all the time. ...It may not be YOUR path to happiness, but it's a fine start. Thanks Alexandra, I read it often.

Choosing Happy Materialism:
While this book does offer spiritual keys to happiness, they mostly seem to be suggestions that we have all heard before, such as using your imagination, surrounding yourself in color, and learning to fully appreciate everything in your life. I think that the happiness keys that could truly evoke some interior changes in a person are underemphasized, only mentioned in passing as though change is easy to undertake, while the book focuses mostly on material pleasures. Yes, fine table linens, cafe lattes, fountain pens, and antiques purchased in Provence do make people, but should we bank our happiness on what we own? The author mentions her fine stationery, antique furniture, and colorful clothing all throughout the book, conveying the idea that we can choose happiness by buying objects that make us happy. This take on "happiness" makes consumerism far too important. The book lacks insight into emotions that are not based on reflections of what we own or surround ourselves with, and therefore, I think this book seems to be mostly about money, because it's foundation seems to lie in what material objects you can own to make your happiness, that the goal isn't really "choosing happiness" so much as BUYING happiness.

A book that is a friend and a co:
This book is a treasure-not to be read quickly but savored when settled into a quiet moment with a cup of tea. It is like self-therapy: encouraging on a bleak day, uplifting when needed, enhancing the best moments, and consoling during the worst. Less structured than many of Stoddard's other works, this book meanders like daily thoughts, exploring reoccurring themes such as: > Defining the ingredients of happiness. ("Often we learn about unhappiness from being unhappy. We need strategies and tools to better cope with unhappiness, disappointment, and pain.... Approximately half of the ways to increase our happiness can be derived from wise, imaginative choices. The other half comes from our willingness to accept whatever happens, to make the necessary adjustments and move forward....Pleasure is experienced in our outer environment; joy originates within. Love of life and others is the goal. Choosing happiness is the way.") > Cultivating mindfulness. ("By developing the capacity to be fully present in each moment, we will live a life of greater depth and meaning.... All experiences have the power to transform us when we're fully alive to the beauty of a present moment's encounter.") > Sensitivity to our environment. ("The care and maintenance that we put into our immediate physical environment, our homes, our gardens, our possessions, our clothes, will always add to our sense of well-being and inner peace.") > Cultivating our "inner garden." > Ways to prioritize. ("When we prioritize what tasks we must perform, we're able to immerse ourselves in what we do. Whenever we try to do too much in too little time, we are less effective and don't do anything well.") > Developing our defining words to help us "be true to ourself in our life choices." > Counteracting the negative with the positive. ("We get good vibes by giving them....Being fully present. Listening well-these small gestures of caring are magical when they become a habit, a happy continuing experience....Miserable people cause most of the problems.... A gentle opposing energy can bring balance.") > Expending energy to gain energy. ("Whatever positive vibrations we send out come back to us in rich benefits.... The more often we give off good energy-even if only in optimistic, compassionate thoughts and insightful ideas-the more opportunities we'll have to live vibrantly moment to moment.... Appreciation energizes.") > Following goals. ("When we decide what we want to do with our life, and move in the direction of our goals, when we challenge ourselves to personal growth as a regular discipline, we put everything we have into everything we do.") > Thanking others. ("Thanking people for services they perform for you can bring dignity and pleasure to their jobs. The extra little effort, whether made in person, over the telephone, or in writing, adds grace to the giver as well as the receiver and encourages the energy of happiness.") > Handling pain. ("Painful times in our lives are emotional marathons, and we know marathon runners don't run on empty. We need to be in training in order to be at our strongest, most courageous best.... We should focus our energy on how we react to circumstances beyond our control, not on why something painful has happened.... When we bravely face truth, we use our energies to do whatever good we can.... The global family as a whole is not a happy one. There is sorrow at every turn-sadness because of lack of love, pain because of loss of hope, bitterness that is entrenched. What a wonderful gift we're given to be able to be of help.... Participate with joy in the sorrows of the world.") > Gardening as a metaphor. ("We can think of our home as a lovely garden that we enjoy cultivating.... The houses where we live don't thrive on benign neglect. Living abundantly requires lots of loving energy.... When the energy is positive, when every wall, every corner exudes light and charm, there is no need to have anything that is not meaningful, useful, or beautiful.... Make your home a garden so breathtakingly beautiful that you inspire happiness in everyone you welcome in.... Our homes are our ideal earthly paradise.") The necessity of ritual. ("Aesthetic qualities feed the human spirit and offer us color and variety as well as opportunities to feel grace notes of happiness.... When we are awake to the full potential of each moment, nothing is ever routine.") > Following our dreams. ("Dreams come true when there is a clear, far-sighted perspective on what we most want from life and what energies we are willing to expend to achieve it.... We are like bees. We move about, going from here to there, having thousands of different experiences, and learning how to cultivate our own. We take everything in, then we make our honey, our own dreams come true, our own happiness.") > The importance of solitude. ("We need regular times alone to better understand what is happening inside us and around us and to integrate our lives into a larger perspective.") > Being open to happy accidents. ("Be on the lookout for the gift of making fortunate discoveries by accident. A great deal of happiness comes as a result of the things we are not consciously searching for but discover with surprise. We can delight in the reality of any given moment.") > Setting limits. ("No matter how large our hearts or how sensitive we are to the needs of others, no life can be lived well without limits.... None of us will be happy if we try to be all things to all people, all the time.... With courage, resolution and perseverance we can set our boundaries, know our limits, listen to our conscience.") These and many other topics can help each of us to achieve more enrichment in our everyday lives. What is most special about Stoddard's writing is her very visual and sensual descriptions of the simple ordinary beauty in everyday life. Spiced with examples and stories from personal experience, Stoddard makes philosophic concepts real, practical, and attainable. No one can read this book without enhancing their own lives. This book is hard to read quickly and is better experienced one segment at a time. It is a testimony to licking the cream from existence; something each of us can always do with greater mindfulness.

A book that is a friend and a companion:
This book is a treasure-not to be read quickly but savored when settled into a quiet moment with a cup of tea. It is like self-therapy: encouraging on a bleak day, uplifting when needed, enhancing the best moments, and consoling during the worst. Less structured than many of Stoddard's other works, this book meanders like daily thoughts, exploring reoccurring themes such as: > Defining the ingredients of happiness. ("Often we learn about unhappiness from being unhappy. We need strategies and tools to better cope with unhappiness, disappointment, and pain.... Approximately half of the ways to increase our happiness can be derived from wise, imaginative choices. The other half comes from our willingness to accept whatever happens, to make the necessary adjustments and move forward....Pleasure is experienced in our outer environment; joy originates within. Love of life and others is the goal. Choosing happiness is the way.") > Cultivating mindfulness. ("By developing the capacity to be fully present in each moment, we will live a life of greater depth and meaning.... All experiences have the power to transform us when we're fully alive to the beauty of a present moment's encounter.") > Sensitivity to our environment. ("The care and maintenance that we put into our immediate physical environment, our homes, our gardens, our possessions, our clothes, will always add to our sense of well-being and inner peace.") > Cultivating our "inner garden." > Ways to prioritize. ("When we prioritize what tasks we must perform, we're able to immerse ourselves in what we do. Whenever we try to do too much in too little time, we are less effective and don't do anything well.") > Developing our defining words to help us "be true to ourself in our life choices." > Counteracting the negative with the positive. ("We get good vibes by giving them....Being fully present. Listening well-these small gestures of caring are magical when they become a habit, a happy continuing experience....Miserable people cause most of the problems.... A gentle opposing energy can bring balance.") > Expending energy to gain energy. ("Whatever positive vibrations we send out come back to us in rich benefits.... The more often we give off good energy-even if only in optimistic, compassionate thoughts and insightful ideas-the more opportunities we'll have to live vibrantly moment to moment.... Appreciation energizes.") > Following goals. ("When we decide what we want to do with our life, and move in the direction of our goals, when we challenge ourselves to personal growth as a regular discipline, we put everything we have into everything we do.") > Thanking others. ("Thanking people for services they perform for you can bring dignity and pleasure to their jobs. The extra little effort, whether made in person, over the telephone, or in writing, adds grace to the giver as well as the receiver and encourages the energy of happiness.") > Handling pain. ("Painful times in our lives are emotional marathons, and we know marathon runners don't run on empty. We need to be in training in order to be at our strongest, most courageous best.... We should focus our energy on how we react to circumstances beyond our control, not on why something painful has happened.... When we bravely face truth, we use our energies to do whatever good we can.... The global family as a whole is not a happy one. There is sorrow at every turn-sadness because of lack of love, pain because of loss of hope, bitterness that is entrenched. What a wonderful gift we're given to be able to be of help.... Participate with joy in the sorrows of the world.") > Gardening as a metaphor. ("We can think of our home as a lovely garden that we enjoy cultivating.... The houses where we live don't thrive on benign neglect. Living abundantly requires lots of loving energy.... When the energy is positive, when every wall, every corner exudes light and charm, there is no need to have anything that is not meaningful, useful, or beautiful.... Make your home a garden so breathtakingly beautiful that you inspire happiness in everyone you welcome in.... Our homes are our ideal earthly paradise.") The necessity of ritual. ("Aesthetic qualities feed the human spirit and offer us color and variety as well as opportunities to feel grace notes of happiness.... When we are awake to the full potential of each moment, nothing is ever routine.") > Following our dreams. ("Dreams come true when there is a clear, far-sighted perspective on what we most want from life and what energies we are willing to expend to achieve it.... We are like bees. We move about, going from here to there, having thousands of different experiences, and learning how to cultivate our own. We take everything in, then we make our honey, our own dreams come true, our own happiness.") > The importance of solitude. ("We need regular times alone to better understand what is happening inside us and around us and to integrate our lives into a larger perspective.") > Being open to happy accidents. ("Be on the lookout for the gift of making fortunate discoveries by accident. A great deal of happiness comes as a result of the things we are not consciously searching for but discover with surprise. We can delight in the reality of any given moment.") > Setting limits. ("No matter how large our hearts or how sensitive we are to the needs of others, no life can be lived well without limits.... None of us will be happy if we try to be all things to all people, all the time.... With courage, resolution and perseverance we can set our boundaries, know our limits, listen to our conscience.") These and many other topics can help each of us to achieve more enrichment in our everyday lives. What is most special about Stoddard's writing is her very visual and sensual descriptions of the simple ordinary beauty in everyday life. Spiced with examples and stories from personal experience, Stoddard makes philosophic concepts real, practical, and attainable. No one can read this book without enhancing their own lives. This book is hard to read quickly and is better experienced one segment at a time. It is a testimony to licking the cream from existence; something each of us can always do with greater mindfulness.