[.ca] Boundaries (ISBN 0671791931)

Not for women only!:
As a male, I disagree with the reviewer who said that this book is for women only. On the other hand, I will state that many men may find it difficult to read. But that is not a good reason to avoid grappling with the concepts that are presented here. Several years ago I attempted to read another book on boundaries that caused me to reach the conclusion that "boundaries" can add to division in marriage. Fortunately, someone encouraged me to try this excellent volume by Anne Katherine. What makes this book potentially challenging for men is that many of the cases presented here involve women whose boundaries (physical, sexual, emotional, social, etc.) have been violated by men. One can easily come to the conclusion that all men are jerks. But a man can also begin to reflect on these cases and perhaps see similarities to things he has done to others (women, children, parents, coworkers, etc.) over the years. Any growing human being wants to learn from their mistakes. But sometimes it takes a book like this to cause an individual (male or female) to see the extent of the damage he or she has done by violating various boundaries. Seeing the pain and hurt expressed on these pages might cause individuals to examine similar pain they may have caused in others. So, while one begins to come to grips with--and begins to honor--the boundaries of others, the reader can also begin to reevaluate his or her own boundaries. In my case, I immediately thought of a physician I sometimes see who is also a friend of the family. Since I value his friendship, I now realize that it would be better for me to see other physicians in his clinic in the future. So, men, go ahead. Give this book a try. It can only help you grow as a human being. It will most likely improve your relationships at the same time.

for women only:
This seems to have been written mainly for women who have suffered some sort of sexual abuse. It may be useful for such women, but for anyone else with boundary problems, I'd recommend the same author's "Where to Draw the Line."

Wonderful!:
This is a tremendous book of relationships! With her creative writing style, the author has a knack for getting some essential points about relationships through to the reader. This book made me more aware of the root of my relationship problems and what I can do to improve the overall quality of my life. If you are in a relationship that you would like to improve on, I'd really recommend this book along with "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato. They really helped me improve not only my relationships with my parents, spouse, and children but my life in general.

Life enriching:
This book is simply amazing! It illuminates and teaches in the most gentlest of ways. More importantly, it reminds the reader that their story can be found in the stories of others reaffirming our indelible connection to others. I disagree with a previous review that stated that this book is only for women or for victims of sexual abuse. That statement only serves to generalize and minimize what this book can truly offer. Both men and women can appreciate the wisdom found in this book. Enjoy!

Do People Grow Up Not Knowing This?:
If you don't want to answer a question or get personal with someone, then don't. PERIOD. Was an entire book neccessary?