[.ca] The Sistahs' Rules: Secrets for Meeting, Getting, and ... (ISBN 0688156894)

Too much vernacular and too little wisdom:
I get nervous when general cultural phenomenoms, like woman finds husband, have to be reinterpreted for black people. I don't see the dating game any different for black women as it is for anyone else in the mainstream. Demand high standards and you either get them or your time won't be wasted. I find the advice in this book to be contradictory. On the one hand we are told to consider men who don't make a lot of money since rich (black) men may not have morals, but then we are told he's a keeper if he wears Armani suits. Well, that's alright then. In the author's constant quest to convince us to prioritize asset challenged men on our dance cards, the author tells us about the (bitter) sweet tale of her parents: Her father who is an honest, hardworking yada, yada man who married her mother. Thirty years later, while he's paying two mortagages and a few other necessities, the author tells us her 57 year old mother still has to work to make ends meet. And, she's very happy, the author reassures us. What I want to know, what is that second mortgage that her father is paying on for? In one chapter, the author tells us that black men don't like women who play games. She doesn't define game playing, but I define it as doing something that you don't want to do at that moment but will do for some long term gain. The author makes a direct attack on The Rules (by Sherrie Fein and Ellen Schneider). The author doesn't agree that one should turn down a Saturday night date on Wednesday; but she does advocate turning down a Saturday night date by Friday at lunch time. What should I do then if I want to see this guy on Saturday night and he has called just after I have eaten my lunch? She also advises women to leave the guy's house immediately after you have sex with him. The reason she gives for this is that you will show him what a strong independent woman you are. Excuse me? Has she contemplated the security risk that she has created for anyone who wants to do a runner in the night? And wouldn't this also be classified as 'game playing' as most people prefer semi-civilized habits like sharing breakfast after doing the deed and before parting. Ultimately,though if anyone is still worried that the other may consider their sex partner clingy and needy, may be sex just shouldn't occur in the first place. Funny, that the author didn not consider that option. This is an awful book. It does nothing to increase the self-esteem of black women. She never advocates interracial dating (in fact, she advises us to set our targets lower because black men don't make as much money as white men do) but then if she did, the book may not have been published. I just don't particularly care for being put into a group of 'special needs.' For the record, I am a black American and I don't need to validate what I have just written by telling you what level of education that I have attained or that I am a corporate lawyer or that I am pursuing any other profession.

Puhleeeeze!!:
Another piece of bad literature (or bad "advice") that takes advantage of the plight of the insecure black woman simply to make money.

Not worth the money:
This book would be informative for those who just are out there trying to get a man and nothing else. Some of the suggestions in this book are ludicrous. If you are a self confident woman and know what you want in life, this book is definitely not for you. If you are just subsisting, and trying to find a man to make you, well I suppose this book would help that plan. Furthermore, how can a female write a book on how to get a man, and what keeps him. Wouldn't it make more sense to have a collaboration effort with both a man and a woman on the subject? Or just a man to explain to us women what attracts them to us????? Just some food for thought.

Excellent! Denene tells it "like it is"!:
As a single sistah, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Not only did it make me laugh, it made me think. I think that Denene gave some really good advice, and I recommend it wholeheartedly to young sistahs everywhere. Keep up the good work Denene!!

Cute:
This is books is not the secret to getting a man or anything. However, you may read some things that can change how you go about getting into relationships. I just took this as a good read, and the "African-American" version of the other rules books out on the market. It's cute.