[.ca] Irregular People (ISBN 0929488008)

Want to feel like you discovered fire? Buy this Book!:
I originally read this book when I was going through some major changes in my life--changes that certain people in my life did not understand or sympathize with. This book helped me see that 1. This particular set of people had ALWAYS reacated negatively when I was approaching change in my life (because it meant they too would have to adapt to in my life, and like most humans, they wanted things to stay the same)and 2. There were ways to deal with these people without becoming an irregular person myself, or getting slammed to the pavement yet again by them. This book helped me see that I was not the only person dealing with negativity on a regular basis--that it was not my fault, and that there were ways to deal with these people without becoming just like them (a fate worse than death, I assure you!).Joyce Heatherly hits right on the target. (By the way, she confesses this in a later book, but the "irregular persons" in her life are her father and stepmother--people you definitely cannot cut out of your life!) No, it's not your imagination--these people in your life are hurtful and destructive--but you don't have to let them destroy you, and you don't have to destroy them to live a good life. Joyce's book will show you how.

Victim Mentality:
A horrible book, but it starts out wonderfully. However, Joyce doesn't understand the concept of victim mentality and the fact that she suffers from this form of delusion. A victim of abuse should NEVER return to their abuser, even though this often feels like the natural thing to do. Her advice to apologize to your abuser is so disgusting I can't even put it into words. When I think of all the battered women who might be reading her book, and apologizing to their husbands for the beatings, I almost vomit. God has better plans for us than to keep us in a state of victimhood, which destroys out spirits and keeps us from doing God's work. God may have started the book, but Satan wrote the ending. Joyce should get down on her needs and beg for forgiveness from God.

My first self-help book:
This book has been part of my life for over 20 years now. I have purchased copies over the years for family and friends. Sad to say, it didn't go well with my irregular people. This book help me defined my irregular people as being emotionally blind, emotionally deaf, and so-forth. Sooner or later, individual or family counseling may be necessary.

Irregular People -- The Power to Change Your Life:
This book, shared from the author's own struggles, is a powerful testimony to the human ability to survive. She writes of the pain caused by the rejection of our "irregular people," those individuals in our lives with whom we have to deal with on a regular basis and who constantly give us pain. This book is a "must" for those who have survived abusive childhoods, difficult family members or in-laws, or who have be hurt by family relatives. It truly changed my life by bringing healing and eventually making it possible to have healthy relationships I with my "irregular people." It brings a sense of freedom and healing. I've recommended and given this book to friends and clients more than any other that I have read.

Disfunctional family anyone?:
Joyce Landorf Heatherley has powerful books for people with interpersonal struggles that nag at you everyday. I've lost my copy of this book and am purchasing it again because it's one of the helpful books to review in crisis times. She's also a very comforting writer.