[.ca] The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle: ... (ISBN 0965706206)

The Emergency is the father's role before the divorce:
I need to tell all you who claim your children were "legally kidnapped" to remember who was the primary caregiver and had the main role of raising your child before the separation and divorce, the mother. The generalization can't be made that most men have to pay unrealistic amounts of child support and alimony when child support doesn't equate to the sacrifice and life altering nature raising a child alone involves, there is no price on that. In many cases men are not stripped of their life by having to pay alimony and child support, and some don't even make enough money to have to pay a lot anyway. My parents divorced when I was 16 and my siblings were 11 and 4,and my father tried to played the victim and claimed that the court is anti-fathers and so on; and reading this book out of curiosity made this even more of a sad reality when it was my mother that had to bear the burden all those years by putting her life on hold while her ex-husband (my father) got to spend 80+ hours a week "at work", having countless affairs, and emotionally and verbally abused my mother when she gave up her life to raise her family and stay in marriage as long as she could for her kids sake. Yes, it may be women who initiate divorce the majority of the time, but maybe you guys should be asking yourselves why and to what degree did your children have to sacrifice for what you brought to the table. Of course my father wouldn't initiate the divorce, his life was just the way he wanted it to be. When I find a woman to marry I will know what mistakes not to make an play and equal role in my children's lives by putting their needs first, unlike many fathers including my own.

One of the best books on divorce and/or custody:
This is one of the best books I've found on divorce and/or custody issues. It is easy enough to read for the novice, yet is packed with information to be valuable to an expert. Get this book and read it, take notes, study it, and then file for your divorce. It will be some of the best money you will spend.

Not much here but gloom.:
The few workable ideas are over shadowed be the negative tone and self serving anger. There are much better books out there.

Mommy's Court:
Having read this, and experienced a fierce ongoing visitation battle, I can say this is all true. My experience has been with the gender-biased court of Washington County in Minnesota. My daughter's mother pulled all these tricks and in hindsight, I can see that she only wanted me to father a child, but not have any important role in our daughter's life. As any Minnesota attorney will tell you, a women is NEVER chastised for perjury in Washington County. It's not even addressed. In 1993, I went Pro Se to be adjudicated after our daughter was born. My daughter's mother never wanted to get married. Although I couldn't afford an attorney, and didn't know the law, I asked for joint legal and physical custody, and the female court-appointed mediator stated rather blithely that "joint physical and legal custody don't mean anything." Of course, my ex made all sorts of false allegations to get me out of our daughter's life. I have taken her to court for denial of visitation five times in ten years, plus the many times I have attempted mediation -- which she would make an excuse not to show up for. I can say that the judge always made me pay her attorney fees -- although I cannot afford one myself. Instead of looking me in the eye, the judge always "takes these matters into advisement." Although the court is only allowed to take more than %25 of my net for child support, I pay more than that, plus medical expenses. Not to mention that almost all of the court social workers are female with a large chip on their shoulders. I have read other books on this subject, talked to several attorneys, been to men's support groups,etc. I could go on, but I'm sure you get the picture. No would-be father knows this until he has been put through the mill by both the gender-biased court and his child's mother. In our society, fathers are disposible. We are considered a wallet and a spermbank -- nothing else.

Dead on for the common divorce...:
Of course there are divorces in which the mother is the victim...however, Seidenberg writes of the most common type of divorce in which Dad (and the family) is the ultimate victim. Dads need to raise their self-esteem by refusing to let belligerent women and the Divorce Industry beat them down. The events Seidenberg describe parallel my own experiences. I will never forget what happened to me, and I will advise my 7 year old son never to marry. Be with women, raise children with them (with appropriate legal agreements) to be sure, but never to marry. It is too often a terrible deal for a Man.