[.ca] The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and ... (ISBN 1570715343)

Informative as well as therapeutic!:
For those of us who have suffered the consequences in our career, our pocket books, our health, our marriages and personal lives at the hands and mind games of a Bully at Work, this book is an important "must read". This book helps to clarify the chaos and lead the reader to understand the perpetrator, those that support and nurture the perpetrator, and most importantly the innocent victim, the Target. I am a 55 year old professional, a physician, with years of education. I fell victim to a real "Bully", and suffered the consequences. I realized the Bully was rude and obnoxious, and taking a toll on my life, and my patients. I did not understand the pyschology and sociology until it was too late. Now I am using the information to relieve the pain, and yes, to finally take some action! Help yourself, and those who you love, and who love you. This book is the easiest to read, to understand, and to help you to recover and to take action. The price is right. Get it, and get on with it!

This is indeed the 2003 updated edition (ISBN 1-57071-534-3):
-- despite the "April 2000" date in the Amazon "buying info"; I just bought the book thru this page, it is "copyright 2000, 2003", and it is the updated edition with the above ISBN. For yet more info on this book, see http://www.bullyinginstitute.org/home/book2.html

Message: Find Another Job:
I can sum up the content of this book in a few statements: 1. Being bullied at work is unfair and painful; 2. Management will not support you; 3. There is virtually no legal recourse to bullying at work; 4. The best thing to do is find another job. Oh yeah, there's lots of psychobabble in between, but if you read between the lines, they are basically telling you there's not a thing you can do about bullying at work. The authors are pushing their own Institute's agenda, which is to have anti-bullying laws passed in the USA (as they have been in many other countries). I totally support this agenda; I just don't think this book was of particular help or interest to me, a professional who is being bullied at work by an uneducated, verbally abusive thug. While the authors purport to support people who are the Target of bullies, there is some subtle blaming-the-victim going on in this book that I find very offensive (that Targets may be self-defeating,without good boundaries, self-blaming,etc.) At the same time I purchased this book from Amazon, I also purchased Mobbing:Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace. I found it a much more helpful, frank book. Yes, the bottom-line message is the same, but minus the offensive psychobabble.

Excellent, Relevant and Recent:
This book, last published in 2003 as of this writing, is excellent for anyone who is the target of a workplace bully, whether that bully is a boss or a coworker. The authors describe what workplace bullying is and the avenues that can be taken to deal with the bully. If confrontation is desired, the risks are detailed as well as what one may expect along the way. The bully's weaknesses and core character flaws are described as well as how to use those to your advantage. Current laws and bills are discussed. Advice is given regarding documentation. Possible legal avenues are discussed. I highly recommend this book and see it as a useful resource for targets of bullies, attorneys, and psychologists, as well as a must-have addition to every HR director's library.

BULLIES - FAMILY / WORKPLACE / SCHOOL / NEIGHBORHOOD:
Excellent compliments to this book are: Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier; Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss and James Masterson; The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen; The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert Pressman; Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson; Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man by Scott Wetzler; Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin and Lidija Rangelovska (Editor); Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown; Treating Attachment Disorders: From Theory to Therapy by Karl Heinz Brisch and Kenneth Kronenberg; Toxic Coworkers: How to Deal with Dysfunctional People on the Job by Alan Cavaiola and Neil Lavender; Bully in Sight: How to Predict, Resist, Challenge and Combat Workplace Bullies by Tim Field. And if you want to pursue the subject even further, you may be interested in reading The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment; Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility by Jim Fay and Foster Cline.