[.ca] Hard Questions (ISBN 1585422967)

Need More Questions:
I found that this book was lacking in dozens if not hundreds of essential questions that should be asked before couples make a lifetime commitment. Most of the questions were good but I had to look elsewhere to find the questions that I knew were lacking. Definitely check out 1000 Questions for Couples.

forward is gold - questions are so so:
Those looking for a quick reference of compelling / insightful questions might be a little disappointed. "The Hard Questions" does offer a few nuggets you might not have thought of yourself, but the truth is the important questions will be different for each couple, and you'd probably be better served by formulating your own. The author does, however, write a beautiful, eloquent, and insightful forward that is well worth the price of admission all by itself. Piver provides a perspective on marriage and relationships that is honest and touching, and which should inspire most readers to look with new eyes at why they are together and how they might stay that way.

Wasn't what I expected:
I saw this book on Oprah and thought that maybe it would give me ideas of what to ask my Fiance before we got married. This book is more for people who had a short engagement and are still getting to know one another. The questions are pretty childish and a lot of them my Fiance and I have already talked about. The questions basically ask about your feelings about children, your job, house, etc.. I basically wasted my money so don't waste yours if you and your boyfriend/Fiance/Husband have been together for a long time. It doesn't really help you figure out anything new.

Leading Questions for discussion:
This book will open up topics you may have been hesitant to bring up. You are making one of the most (if not the most) important decisions in your life. Do skip any question you may think are not important or silly. This is a very usefull tool. If you buy this book with the intension of fully discussing the questions and your partner is open to the discussion then you have truly found "The One". A sure sign you and he/she are not meant to be together is that they refuse to discuss any of the topics involved. MOVE ON!

Essential?:
When you get questions like "What if one of us stopped working?" and "Do you want kids?" then it is far from "Hard hitting" or "Essential". It takes Susan 128 pages to give a list of 100 questions that could be yanked out of any given teen magazine on any given day of the week. Maybe if I was 12.. then I would have admired the "hard hitting" questions. However.. now.. I'll ask all these questions before I'm 2 months into a relationship, let alone getting married! If your compass is awry and you're petrified of talking candidly with your spouse.. this book is for you! If not.. well.. go spend the money on dinner, and you'll actually have a better discussion!