[.ca] Bully the Bullied & the Bystander (ISBN 1853408476)

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With the spate of teen suicides and revenge killings of students in schools across North America, schoolyard bullying has become one of the greatest tragedies of our time. Sticks and stones may break bones, but name-calling turns out to be worse. As internationally renowned educator and author Barbara Coloroso points out in The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, bullying today is crueller and more violent than ever. But breaking the cycle of violence involves more than merely recognizing the presence of bullying; it requires examining why and how a child becomes a bully or the target of a bully. Coloroso details in seven well-researched and easy-to-read chapters how parents can first identify a bully (a child who has contempt for others, intends to harm, and threatens further aggression) and the bullied (a child who shows such warning signs as a drop in grades, unusual routes to school, torn or missing clothing, and playing alone). She also says bystanders--classmates afraid to stick up for friends because they don't want to suffer the same fate, as well as parents who discount bullying as teasing and a necessary part of growing up--are as bad as the bullies themselves. If Coloroso paints a terrifying picture of schoolyard bullying, she also painstakingly details how families can take steps to stop the violence. Throughout her book, she lists must-read antidotes and tips for parents who are trying to help their children withstand and stop bullying. "Pay attention, get involved, and never ever look away," Coloroso writes; by doing so, you may even save a life. --Richard Burnett