The Source of Anger in Grief - Bereavement
There are several phases of grief. They are not necessarily experienced in any particular order. We can get through one phase, only to have something surface later that brings it back. There is no time limit. You get through grief as best you ... [... more]
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Forgive Yourself - Bereavement
Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing. It surprises people to learn this. Forgive is derived from an ancient Hebrew word meaning "send away". 1. To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon. 2. To renounce anger or resentment ... [... more]
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Regret Free Living - Bereavement
I wish I could have visited with her one last time. We spoke on the phone often but that's not the same as seeing someone in person. I miss her terribly. Tomorrow would have been her birthday." Our friend gives us all a good wake up call. While ... [... more]
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Symptoms of Survivor Guilt - Bereavement
In one of the final scenes of the amazing movie "Schindler's List", the character of Schindler has an agonizing break down. He had spent many war years saving the lives of a small group of people. In this scene, he is being honored and thanked [... more]
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Recovering from Survivor Guilt - Bereavement
In previous articles we read the characteristics of Survivor Guilt, and the people most likely to suffer from it. We learned it closely resembles depression, but has unique differences. Recovery is similar to that of depression, but again, has ... [... more]
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A Mother At War - Bereavement
The German Occupation Army that took over her childhood home couldn't do it. The troubled families she counseled professionally for years couldn't do it. Nothing could dampen the hardy spirit that gives life to Ragnhild ("rhymes with downhill") [... more]
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Difficult Mothers - Bereavement
There is a period in every person's life when you don't get along with Mom. It's a natural part of human development. Who was it that said "I was extremely surprised, at the age of 25, to see how much wisdom my (parent) had acquired in such a ... [... more]
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Children and Death - Bereavement
We don't like to connect the words, but children experience death and loss too. How we choose to represent death and dying to our children will have far reaching impact on their experience of life and living, as they pass their learned ... [... more]
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The Tasks of Grief - Bereavement
We've probably all grown up with the adage "Time heals all wounds". Most take that to mean they can go about their daily routines, and some miraculous day POOF! We'll wake up feeling all better. Sorry to burst that bubble, but it just ain't ... [... more]
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Death of a Child - Bereavement
Child death is a social taboo. The death of a child is so unthinkable that most people just push it away, often adding a physical movement or soft spoken prayer to further block and protect them from the horror of child death. Child death is so ... [... more]
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Where is God in your grief? - Bereavement
Somewhere in the shock of trauma and death, there is a time when a person will focus on God. Whether we are in frequent communication, or seldom mention his name except in vain, we turn to God now. We cannot fathom the reality of what has just ... [... more]
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Holiday Memorials - Bereavement
One of the hardest things to cope with after the loss of a loved one is holidays. There seems to be one every month, and you have family birthdays and anniversaries sprinkled through your calendar. Chances are good that the death occured near ... [... more]
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