Survivors and Christmas - Child Abuse
Many survivors of child abuse will remember what they endured for many years. They may, during the holiday season, struggle to remember good memories that they shared with their abusive parents. Christmas is a busy time of year and is filled with ... [... more]
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Boundaries and Respect - Child Abuse
One of the things that has always amazed me, during the course of my journey to healing, is that there are those attempting to live their life by processing their pain or establishing healthy boundaries for themselves and are sometimes accused of ... [... more]
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Children, Respect, and Disrespect - Child Abuse
First, let me say that if an adult expects a child to respect them, then the adult must teach that child what respect is, by respecting the child. Children do not automatically come with the knowledge of respect. It is something that is learned, ... [... more]
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Facts About Trust - Child Abuse
Trust is such a difficult issue for survivors of abuse. They are constantly told to trust those around them. There are the doctors they must trust to tend to their injuries. There are the therapists to trust with their secrets. There are the ... [... more]
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Rediscovery of Who We Are - Child Abuse
This is a question that many survivors of child abuse ask themselves. A person that was abused as a child usually has very low self-esteem and doesn't feel as though they know who they are as an individual. This is because as a child, they were ... [... more]
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Reflections - Child Abuse
One aspect of self-care, that most don't consider to be so, is reflection. Reflection can be a powerful tool in working towards healing. It allows us the ability to look back at our past thoughts, actions, feelings, reactions, behaviors, words ... [... more]
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Regaining the Trust of a Child - Child Abuse
When an adult has abused a child, regaining their trust is not easy. Granted, there are some abusers that see their own behavior as inappropriate and attempt to regain the trust of their child, whom they abused. The form of abuse, written in this ... [... more]
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Secrets Carried Within the Child - Child Abuse
Three years ago, in a speech class I was taking, I had a presentation to give using illustrations. The idea was to create a visual for students at an elementary level. We were each given a list of topics to choose from. I chose domestic violence, ... [... more]
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Self Identification - Child Abuse
Self-identification is a big issue for those that were abused, or are being abused, by their parents. The child that watches their parents drink until they pass out thinks that they are defined by that bottle of alcohol. The child that watches ... [... more]
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The Basics of Emotions - Child Abuse
Emotions are like crayons. They come in all shapes and colors. You might ask how these emotions and crayons correlate. Imagine the youngster that has just bought a new box of crayons for his first day of school. The first time he pulls out those ... [... more]
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The Inner Child - Child Abuse
Victims of child abuse may yearn to connect with their little child inside of them. The only way to connect with that little boy or girl, is to allow them to be heard. Obviously, there is no audible speaking. This type of communication is vital ... [... more]
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Nightmares and the Survivor - Child Abuse
I believe that it is normal for a survivor of child abuse to have recurring nightmares. A therapist once told me that when a person has nightmares it is because their subconscience is trying to process abuse that has been otherwise hidden or ... [... more]
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