Hatred - Divorce
Hatred is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. I just read this in a post on the Internet. I looked it up, and I cannot find out who said it first, but there are several people using it as their quote on their signature ... [... more]
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How Long Does It Take? - Divorce
I am asked often how long does a divorce take? Well, the answer is not as clear-cut as it could be. Two main factors determine how long your divorce process will last. One factor is whether or not you and your soon to be ex can come to a mutually ... [... more]
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The Work of Healing... - Divorce
So now that your divorce is final you're free, right? Wrong! Now the real work begins. The work of healing and making sure that you do not repeat the cycle that led to your divorce is some of the most emotional and important work that you will ... [... more]
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Mediation in Divorce - Divorce
Mediation is preferable to having an all out war in the courts. However, it is not for everyone, and for people it will work for, you might not need it. In order to decide whether a mediator can help you and your spouse come to an agreement you ... [... more]
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Taking stock of your life - Divorce
If you are going through a divorce right now, you probably are feeling pretty low about your life. You may even feel that everything is hopeless because it is not as it was before the divorce. You may feel disconnected with the rest of society ... [... more]
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The Family Tree - Divorce
In 1988, when I got a divorce, I remember feeling sad because I would never have a "real" family and that my child's life would forever be fractured and broken. I knew all the statistics. Children from "broken" homes were more likely [... more]
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Letting go of Jealousy - Divorce
I was jealous that this other woman was going to be in the lives of my girls! I had so many fears. She was younger, more physically fit; soon they would prefer her to me! I knew it! Fun, Beautiful, young, laughing, swimming, playing Step mom ... [... more]
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Acceptance - Divorce
According to freedictionary.com the definition ofacceptance is: This tells me that to get to acceptance that you must do something. You must act on something. It will not just happen automatically. So, what are some concrete things that you can ... [... more]
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The Divorce is My Fault - Divorce
You cheated, you have an addiction, you did something horrible and your spouse could not forgive you. Now you are getting a divorce, and it is your fault. Your spouse was wonderful, your spouse did nothing wrong, but you did, and now you are ... [... more]
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Custody Status is not Static - Divorce
Oftentimes during a divorce or even after it is long over there will be custody issues that arise due to misunderstandings and disagreements. Sometimes these issues are just a normal part of parenting, and sometimes they are directly related to ... [... more]
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Resolutions for 2009 - Divorce
Most of us make New Year's Resolutions even when we say that we don't. It's just natural that at the end of an era we make plans to do something different "...from now on." Whether it's the New Year or the end of the old year that makes us do [... more]
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Overcoming Insecurities - Divorce
Divorce is like a death. Not only the death of a marriage and friendship, but death of the you that you thought you were. Sometimes it can be difficult to figure out where you fit in now that you're not you. You're no longer Mrs. Somebody, now ... [... more]
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