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Toxic in-laws:
This book is ok enough. I liked other books by Susan Forward better, like Toxic Parents. I didn't find the help in this book that I needed and felt it was a bit stereo type problems. Could have been more general advices included. Also I think some of what she writes about forgiveness is totally wrong. Forgiveness is not about condoning the other persons actions, but about you letting go of the resentment and anger towards this them. I believe forgiveness is an important step in the healing process. Read books by Louise L. Hay if you are interested in seeing things different and get done with the past.
Helped!:
This helped my son whom has this type of inlaws and makes them easier to tollerate!
Eye-opening and confidence-boosting:
This book was recommended to me by a friend dealing with her own difficult in-laws; if you're looking at this page, chances are you share those same troubles. In my experience, the most helpful things about "Toxic In-Laws" were reading about the experiences of other couples and recognizing situations strikingly similar to mine and realizing I was not alone, and reading the suggestions for strategies to deal with unhealthy treatment from my in-laws. Dr. Forward's suggestions are practical; she doesn't promise that you can create the in-laws relationship of your dreams, but it has really helped improve our confidence and resolve in the relationship we will have with my husband's parents. For example, towards the end of the book is a list of suggested responses when an in-law says something mean or critical. It can be hard to think of a response in the heat of the moment, and remembering some of these phrases will, I hope, be helpful for me.
Atleast I know I'm not Crazy!:
In terms of understanding the motivations behind confusing behavior in In-Laws this book was amazing. The too often, well intentioned, but too meddling and even intentionally malicious behavior was categorized and explained in a way that made my in-laws often rude undertones make sense. It reset my thinking in terms of expectations and gave me a palpable road map to dealing with a relationship that I will have for decades to come. I wish there had been a special section on the differences between a difficult father in law vs. a difficult mother in law. However enough information was given in order to adapt the advice to my particular situation. Overall this book revived my broken spirit when it came to my mother in law and renewed my determination to react confidently with poise and compassion when faced with the incessant subtle chiseling that hurts me from family gatherings to drop off and pick ups of my children. The author even gives helpful advice on exactly what to say in those choked up/shocked moments that happen too often. Thank you Dr. Forward.
"Toxic In-Laws" by Susan Forward, Ph.D:
This book is a MUST read for anyone who is interested in having their partner be an ally instead of constantly being placed in the middle of every disagreement that comes down the pike, real or imagined. I am not finished with it yet, but already this book has helped me change certain ways of thinking and perceptions toward my husband's family. I have re-claimed my power, now I am looking forward to enjoying a peaceful holiday season instead of being part of an emotional hostage situation.
| Author: | Susan Forward | | Binding: | Paperback | | Dewey Decimal Number: | 158 | | EAN: | 9780060507855 | | ISBN: | 0060507853 | | Number Of Pages: | 304 | | Publication Date: | 2002-10-01 | | Release Date: | 2002-10-15 |
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