Break Up or Break Through (ISBN 1555836399)

Not what I expected, but exactly what I needed:
I originally picked this book up just before I ended a four year relationship. I originally bought it with the intention of giving it to my then boyfriend, but ended up reading it and keeping it for myself. Even though I broke up with said boyfriend, I learned a lot from the book. This book is not so much about how to "fix" relationships as it is to learn how to make personal growth and healing a part of your relationships. The author's position -- and I'm inclined to concur -- is that in doing so, one's relationships will also grow, heal, and become more resilient and flexible. The author spends a great deal of time talking about setting up and honoring boundaries, facing fears rather than projecting them onto the relationship, and understanding when a relationship is not about "the relationship," but about something that one or one's partner is struggling to work through on their own. She also stresses the importance of letting your partner work out their own problems and giving them an understanding ear rather than taking on the job of solving their problems. This book is not for the person who wants a quick band-aid for their relationship. Instead, it is for the person who wants to become more self-aware and true to their innermost being, both when they're alone and when they're sharing their loves with someone else.

Break Up or Break Through:
I loved this book. It is no-nonsense plain talk about being REAL as opposed to be "good" or "perfect" for someone else. Her words ring true and her exercises promote self-awareness, the first step in self-acceptance. I am a stronger person in a better relationship for having read it. Pick it up and browse through it in the bookstore. You'll probably take it home and be very glad you did!

relationships from a spiritual perspective. helpful for anyone.:
This book is apparently written with the gay community in mind, but it is applicable to anyone. Insightful ways of looking at yourself in relationships, interesting questionnaires, and it definitely has a lot to offer for anyone looking for a way to let go of fear and create deeper, transformative and fulfilling relationships.

Don't Waste Your Money!:
The book discusses how wonderful it will be when you finally get "real" but it doesn't explain how to get there. Buyer beware! There are better books out there.