Wake Up or Break Up: 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening ... (ISBN 1594860726)

A Guide to Understanding Yourself and Your Mate:
Wake Up or Break Up- 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship is so positive and so direct that you feel quite comfortable reading Dr. Felder's advice. You find yourself saying, "Oh my goodness, that's what I do." You never feel defensive or attacked, and neither will your partner. It is safe to pass this book on for reading and sharing. Felder reminds us that there are warning signs when a relationship is in trouble and that it is up to individuals and their partners to recognize and acknowledge the signs. The next step is to start repairing the damage before the relationship is beyond repair. This is where Dr. Felder shines, he give real case scenarios with everyday problems. He discusses others who come with your partner as part of your union--friends, family, an ex-spouse. This book is divided by steps instead of chapters. Step One starts with what Dr. Felder calls The Four Imbalancers: The Unintentional Bulldozer, The Martyr, The Unilateral Decision-Maker and The Nice Person Who Reaches The Breaking Point. These titles need no explanation--you may already see yourself. Step Eight offers advice on how to keep your repaired relationship strong. Wake Up or Break Up- 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship is more than a quick-fix guide for couples, it is a guide to understanding yourself and your mate. Highly recommended. Vannie(~.~) Work & Family @ BellaOnline.com http://www.bellaonline.com/Site/workandfamily

Great Read for All Couples:
I found this book very helpful. Concrete, clear advice with real life scenarios help readers work out many common relationship problems. An easy read. One thing that I loved about this book was it's inclusion of same sex couples in some of the scenarios. Dr. Felder does a great job at recognizing that conflicts arise in couples without descriminating against gender or sexual orientation. It's unfortunate that some readers may not pick this book up until it is too late. Problems can only be resolved when both people are willing to work together...that is apparent throughout the book. A must-read for those experiencing un-resolved conflict...and for those who just want to sharpen their relationship skills. Mun @ EnotAlone.com